The blessing of pain….

February 10th, 2015 | Posted by Spice Grove Designs in Inspiration from others | Spice Grove Designs

This is by far the hardest most challenging post I’ve written yet. I will be closing the shop for orders from February 15, 2015 – approximately April 1, 2015 in order to have surgery on my dysplastic hip (not just for dogs!) I write this not to elicit sympathy from you friends, but to educate, empower and encourage any who are going through trials of your own right now. So a big ‘thank-you’ to all who take the time to read this. (I know this is longer than the posts I normally write) Although the shop will be closed for orders I’ll still be sending out newsletters, posting on Facebook, etc. as well as having some fun giveaways while we are closed (in between PT appointments) so stay tuned!! Thank you all for your support over the years and for your understanding in this situation!

About hip dysplasia… (the short version)
I started having hip pain about 10 years ago which was misdiagnosed until last August. I found out that I have hip dysplasia (yes people can have this – not just pups) :) and hypermobility syndrome. Both are rare genetic diseases that don’t have an easy fix. (Hip dysplasia is a typically misdiagnosed condition hence my hope is to spare someone the years of pain that I’ve had.) I’ll spare you all the details but basically my joints are very loose and don’t want to stay in place (hypermobility) and my hip sockets aren’t formed right which allows my femur to ‘pop’ out of joint all the time causing damage to the joint and pain (dysplasia). I will be having a Periacetabular Osteotomy (PAO) on February 26th. If anyone is interested there is a cool video of the actual procedure that is animated (no blood and guts) but it is pretty graphic. I’ll put the link here. There is a 3-6 month recovery period, much of this non-weight bearing so I got all sorts of awesome crutches and a wheelchair for Christmas! :) Basically all of this to say I’m not exactly sure when I’ll be able to open up the shop full-time again, but I’m aiming for the start of April. (This will depend on when/if I am able to get the other hip done in the Fall too.) Thank you for letting me share some information about this often misdiagnosed condition.

Whew – did you get all of that?? I know my head is still spinning! (and if you’re still reading – thank you!)

Here is the BLESSING of all this! (and this is my short list!)

1. Hope!
After years of chronic pain I have HOPE for a brighter future with far less pain! How beautiful is the word ‘hope!’ I am now able to see what a gift it is to give someone hope, whether big or small. What a blessing…

Hope clouds

2. Strength!
My family has been more than amazing in this journey! My sweet Hubby has been so patient and encouraging as he challenges me to ask for help when I’m not feeling strong. I’ve learned that sometimes only in being weak can you really become stronger. It takes more strength to ask for help sometimes than it does to take care of something on your own. It’s been a joy to watch our girls become more in tune with pain, whether mine or someone else’s, as this has grown a heart of compassion in them that they didn’t have before. They are so sweet to help me when I need it. Amazing friends have come alongside me with prayer and kindness that I’ll never be able to repay. Sometimes though, letting someone help you out ends up blessing them as much as it does you! (I still marvel over this fact daily!) For those times when there isn’t support readily available, or folks are unavailable, it’s been nice to realize that I can be stronger than I ever knew on my own!

Strength

3. Health!
Since I was told 10 years ago to stop all exercise, my diet went out the window too and I packed on an unhealthy amount of weight. I’m so overjoyed that I was told a few exercises that I could do and this jump started healthier eating habits. It’s been so educational to learn how we fuel our bodies and we’ve tried so many new and yummy recipes! This has resulted in a good amount of weight lost and lots of muscle gained, YAY!! I’ve learned how important support is in this area and that support can come in ways we can never imagine! I hope that I will be able to support others the same way I’ve been blessed!

4. Understanding/Compassion/Empathy!
Ever had those days at the store where everything and everyone moved slower than you hoped? Having this condition has forced me to slow down and be more patient with life. I try to be kinder if someone cuts me off, gentler with someone who may be a bit grumpy, and more patient with someone who may not be able to move that quickly. (I don’t always succeed with this, but I’m really working on it.) I have had my eyes opened to those who suffer from ‘invisible’ illnesses that the world can’t see. How different would our world be if we treated everyone with compassion? We are all fighting battles, some seen and some unseen! Let’s be there for each other!

5. Patience!
I’ve learned to be more patient with myself as I complete daily tasks that I used to do with no thought at all. Housework comes to mind! (heehee) I’ve had to be okay with things that don’t get done like they used to – again housework comes to mind. I’m learning to fight back against the guilt that comes when I let the kids or family down because of physical limitations that I now have and focus on the amazing things I CAN do for them! I’m so thankful for a family who has been so very patient with me as we adjust to this new ‘normal.’ And I’m eternally grateful for a God who is even more patient with me as I learn all of this!

6. JOY! (what’s that you say?? no, really, read on!)
We all have a choice everyday – no matter our situations or circumstances. To embrace each day with thankfulness and gratefulness or to worry and fret over what the day will bring. I’m not always able to do this, but if I focus on the little miracles I’m blessed with each day then the pain or struggle doesn’t hold as much power over me! Jut the fact that we wake up breathing to face a new day is a miracle! I now try to treasure each moment snuggling my youngest with a book and it lessens the fact that I can’t be on the floor playing with her. I choose to marvel in my eldest as she shares about her day with me before she goes outside to play instead of feeling sorry for myself that I can’t go jump on the trampoline with her. It’s a joy to watch my family as they have been my rock and support as we go through this together. God has truly blessed me and I will choose to embrace each day with the wonder that He has graced us with!!

Living is Joy

If you are still reading, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Again, I didn’t write this to have anyone feel sorry for me, so please don’t. I know that there are many others fighting harder battles than I. But I do hope that along with learning something about dysplasia your heart has been encouraged that you are not alone in your struggle or pain. Something beautiful can come out of the darkest moments in our lives.

Darkest night

Blessings,

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12 Responses

  • My heart resonates with all that you wrote sweet friend. It is interesting how the Lord can use our pain. Praying a safe procedure and speedy recovery for you…I know your girls and Todd will take good care of you! xoxo

  • Charlotte I wish the best outcome for you! You are an amazing person who defies the odds in life. Your positive outlook your attitude and the strength of all those who love you will see you through this. Wishing you happiness & health friend.

  • Rakhee says:

    My dearest one, My heart is aching for you, but yes there is hope and you will get better. Thank you for this beautiful blog. Praying for you and family. Love <3

  • Carole says:

    How awful to have suffered all these years with a misdiagnosis. I am so happy that you can now surgery to correct this condition and finally be without pain. I will be praying and thinking of you as you have your surgery.

  • Liz says:

    Hello Charlotte, you are so right- how beautiful is the word hope!! I finally found out I’ve had endometriosis (probably since me teens-and I’m 32!) The last year has been excruciating pain.. Til finally they did an exploratory surgery and found that I had endometriosis really bad! My word before surgery was-hope! And praise God my life has completely changed!! There were times I would be curled up in a ball and pray that I wouldn’t pass out from the pain.. That is completely gone..I finally know what menstrual pain is supposed to feel like! Anyways, all this to say keep hope, hold tight to Jesus and I’ll be praying for you!!! Your friend in the Woods, Liz Kruse p.s. I love love love my JOY letters from you! God bless you today!

    • Oh Liz how awful!! But I’m so very thankful that you are pain free!! I’m so thankful for all the lessons God teaches us through this pain!! I honestly wouldn’t change my life for anything! I’m so blessed!! He is my rock!! I’m so happy you are still enjoying your JOY letters!! You made my day!! Thanks for the prayers dear friend!!

  • Jill says:

    Wonderful words and know that I will keep you lifted up in my thoughts!!!



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